Sharing encouraging ideas….

Archive for September, 2013

decreasing “seeking approval”… going back to our own positive motivation and intention

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positive motivation and intention, instead of seeking "approval"

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“seeking approval”… sometimes, it seems to be an ongoing challenge in everyday life.  At times, creating and sharing our blog posts might also set off  feelings of wishing for “approval”… ( at least it sometimes has for me  (kathy) )   But it can be an ongoing challenge in ordinary everyday life, too!

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So….
again and again and again,
learning to go back to one’s own positive motivation and intention in whatever we do,
and being content with that.

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I’ve received many good ideas for getting past this  “challenge” from Ven. Jampa, and also from other books and websites.  One source with lots of good ideas, the huge website of Ven. Thubten Chondron, a Buddhist nun at Sravasti Abbey, in Washington,  has a list of ideas for “antidotes” for a feeling of need or desire for  “praise.”

I did a copy paste in May of that online list of ideas from Ven. Thubten Chodron’s teachings  and find the ideas helpful.  (I had changed several words in that list, for sharing with several friends who don’t practice Buddhism, so it wasn’t just specific to Dharma/Buddhist practitioners…I think the ideas are potentially helpful for anyone )  I’ve searched and searched, but can’t find that original document in the website, so can’t directly link it in this post.  Here’s a link to part of her website that has many, many good ideas for practicing positive living in daily life. “Ven. Thubten Chodron, Daily Life Dharma”

I’ll share some of those ideas here, in case any of the ideas might be helpful to anybody else.

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antidotes for "seeking" approval  from Thubten Chodron's website

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And so… going back, again and again,
to acting out of our own positive motivation and intention…
“a mind that wishes to be be helpful and positive”
our positive motivation and intention are what counts

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Postive motivation and intentions are what counts

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Link to a related previous post on Pocket Perspectives,
with some ideas I’m learning about “Eight Worldly Winds”
(one pair of which is “seeking praise- not wanting blame” )
from my other blog…. Pocket Perspectives….
“Eight Worldly Concerns…developing greater understanding, awareness and balance”

“Eight Worldly Winds” that tend to “drive us”…
and might send our minds into “spins”
seeking pleasure – avoiding pain,
seeking gain – avoiding loss,
seeking praise – avoiding blame,
seeking positive recognition – avoiding disrepute

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My (Kathy’s) version of understanding of ideas I’m learning… image is one of several from that linked Pocket Perspectives post

Eight Worldly Winds

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Another link to an excellent Ven. Thubten Chodron one page explanation of  Eight Worldly Concerns: gain – loss, praise – blame, good reputation – bad reputation, pleasure – pain

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I hope some of these ideas might be helpful….
they’re helpful for me, so I thought I’d share a few of them with others…

(Kathy)

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Added a few hours later: a photo, below, of a “windspinner” mobile that  I recently made… each section of it  being like a “representation” of one person’s mind… nice and still,  until a bit of breeze or wind comes along…and then…whoosh!… away it goes…spinning around!  Oh, the power of those 8 Worldly Winds to set off spinning!

My purpose in making this was to use this physical representation to help me to see how our minds can spin….and how the minds of those people around us, the other spinners,  start spinning, too!  In addition, I wanted to become more aware of how we might start spinning around, just being next to one of those spinners…or they get spinning around being near our spinning….or all together…. a large, interconnected, interdependent mobile…with the potential for “spinning”  away.

  (btw….those spinners do spin, but they don’t seem to spin as much, or as fast,  as others that I’ve made…not the way I “expected” they would. Perhaps I accidentally created “minds” more similar to  monks’ or nuns’ minds???… rather than overly active minds more similar to my own? Perhaps, I created a possibility…the potential in each one of us…. of slowing it all down?…. 🙂    I sure hope so! )

Eight Worldly Winds windspinner mobile

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Flexibility …. and the universal notions of truth, justice, compassion and goodness

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truth justice compassion goodness

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flexibility….
but within the context of  truth, justice, compassion and goodness

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compassion goodness truth justice

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Tibet, My Story,
by Jetsun Pema, sister of the DalaiLama
an excellent book

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To remain strong and see each opportunity to grow and learn in life

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advice stay strong, grow and learn in life

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Watching the America’s Cup races, in person and on tv,
has been a really inspiring learning experience for kathy…
watching the level of enthusiasm, persistence, hard work, unbelievable effort, steady motivation…
just keeping going,
no matter what the outcome might or seems to be…
especially Friday’s races…wow!
and then today’s (Sunday’s)  races, too…
wow…talk about persistence and continuing effort…wow!
And…
impermanence, changing nature in life…
things not being the way they appear…
loosening up in life…
wow!

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advice stay strong friday america's cup...persistence, keeping going

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Living a good and meaningful life can have a profound impact on others, too

 

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Living a good life can have profound effects on others too

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Faith in, and living with, goodness, kindness and love

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Faith in and living with goodness, kindness and love

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faith in…
and living with…
goodness, kindness and love
as much….as often…as fully
as possible…
simply
goodness, kindness and love

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Friday Wishes… be still and know you are loved, valued, appreciated, resourceful and strong

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know that you are loved valued appreciated resourceful strong Friday Wishes

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A “Friday Wish” for all of us…
the wish for us to take in and to realize
that each of us is
loved, valued, appreciated, resourceful and strong…

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That our positive and loving thoughts, words and actions
are contributing to the happiness and well being of others,
To persist in living with that goodness…
to realize the loving, positive contribution each of us is making,
each day of our lives
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~ Friday Wishes ~
for each of  us to realize and take in these ideas

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thank you to those who have offered so much

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A photo of a newly created and constructed  “windspinner mobile”…
…hanging outside our window…
blowing gently and gracefully in the breezes

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know that you are loved valued appreciated resourceful and strong... windspinner mobile blowing  gracefully

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spanish estar quietos y saber que eres amado valorado apreciado

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Becoming more aware and present… the least we can do is try to be there….

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beauty and grace are performed  Annie Dillard increasing our presence and awareness

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Learning to increase our own sense of presence and awareness,
again and again, reminding ourselves to come back to the present moment…
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“Beauty and grace are performed whether or not we will or sense them.
The least we can do is try to be there.”
Annie Dillard, Pilgrim on Tinker Creek.

I read this quote in a wonderful book
“Magical Journey: An Apprenticeship in Contentment”
by Katrina Kenison.

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beauty and grace….
in our thoughts, words and actions,
in our hearts and minds,
in ourselves, our practice, others, nature….

“the least we can do is try to be there”

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increasing our sense of awareness and presence  The least we can do is try to be there

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Expanded post on Pocket Perspectives “Beauty and grace are performed…”

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Flexibility….such a wonderful mind state

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flexibility... such a wonderful mindstate...and including kindness, acceptance and compassion

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Spanish la flexibilidad la aceptance, la bondad, la compasion, la comprension 2


Give yourself energy through “doing” rather than sitting and “thinking” about it all….

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"doing" rather than sitting "thinking" about it all

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