Kind and encouraging exchange of ideas among friends…for everyday life

Posts tagged “Patience

The blossoming of…. “The Six Perfections”….

~

The blossoming of… “The Six Perfections”

Generosity
Patience
Ethical Choices
Joyful Effort
Concentration
Wisdom

~

~

~

the blossoming of the six perfections...wisteria

~

~

~

And…
“The Immeasurables”
Living with…
Loving kindness
Compassion
Empathetic Joy
Equanimity

~

perfections immeasurables and the perfections

~

May there be abundant blossoming of….positive qualities…

~

Wisteria the blossoming of...abundant blossoms

~

~


Sometimes all you can do is be strong, compassionate and patient

 

~

 

~


Rejoice in what we were able to complete or achieve

 

 ~

~

~

~

Originally posted, 1/14/12: These ideas were written in the comments section of the 1/2/12  post: “Set a positive intention…”

~


Applying patience, love, kindness and wisdom into our daily lives

~

 

~

Ahhhhhh….
yes, indeed…..
incorporating
patience….love…..kindness…
into our daily practice,
as we’re nurturing and developing deeper wisdom….

~


“little snail, inch by inch, climb Mt. Fuji!” Haiku by Issa

~

~

little snail inch by inch climb haiku

~

~

~

HaikuGuy website: “little snail, inch by inch, climb Mt. Fuji!”

~


Rejoice in what we were able to complete or achieve

Originally posted, 1/14/12: These ideas were written in the comments section of the 1/2/12  post: “Set a positive intention…”


Nelson Mandela … a truly great man

Nelson Mandela…a truly great man
A video release on his birthday…July 18,2013
born July 18, 1918

~

~

A few inspiring quotes from that video….

” my admiration….a great man…Nelson Mandela”
“perseverance, forgiveness, strength, wisdom and grace…”
“the embodiment of magnanimity and reconciliation …”
“dedication to others…his inspiration to serve, as he did, to build a more just and peaceful world…”
” to celebrate by following his example…by doing your best to help others, with a full,  happy, grateful heart…”
“take action, inspire change, make everyday a Mandela Day…”
“for one another, together we can create a better world…”
“thank you for your example….”

~

May we all live our lives….
inspired by, and living with,  the heartfelt qualities of this great man…
Nelson Mandela

~


Image

Sometimes all you can do is be strong, compassionate and patient


Applying patience, love, kindness and wisdom in our daily lives

~

~

~

applying patience love kindness and wisdom in our daily lives

~

~

~

~

patience, love, kindness and wisdom ...deeper levels of trees

~

~

~

six perfections plus patience kindness love and wisdom...tree levels

~

~

 


“Patience is a vast subject…” ….learning to nurture and develop more patience

~

~

patience is a vast subject

~

~

ahhhhhhh…. patience…
definitely a vast subject,
and it seems to develop over time.
We might progress in developing patience in some areas
and then “poof…”
“where did it go?”
patience is lacking in another area
I guess I might benefit from developing patience in the expanding practice of  patience?

~

~

When I first met Jampa, one of my “least favorite” words was “patience”… I bristled each time Jampa mentioned that word. Sometimes I wondered if the word was mentioned simply to add irritation…of course,  that wasn’t the reason, but I had such difficulty with patience in some areas that it seemed that way.  Oddly enough, at that time, I worked with children who had challenges and I was extremely patient with them…but in other situations, including with myself…not so much… patience does seem to be a vast subject.

Strangely enough, the top google search term for people arriving at Reflections for a Friend is… “patience”

~

Link to a number of other “Reflections from a Friend” posts with ideas and quotes about patience….(this post appears first, just scroll down through posts)  patience posts on “reflections from a friend”

~

advice patience is needed

~

Below are some ideas I had come up with several years ago…2009….for developing more patience in some of the specific areas on that first card/image.  I use these ideas with myself, but  surprisingly, several 10 year old students also really resonated with many of the ideas.  I’m including the ideas here, in case they might be helpful for anyone else.  (The “phrases” are very basic and simple…maybe even seeming a bit “childish”…. but sometimes in the midst of a reaction, I sometimes feel like a little kid and find simple to be more helpful than longer lines of reasoning.)

Link to larger image  of that chart, in case it’s too small or difficult  to read within this post. “Patience phrases”

~

developing patience ideas for saying to oneself

~

~

patience is a vast subject Ven. Jampa

~

~


For sure, we can have a more quiet and still mind

~

~

for sure we can have a more quiet and still mind

~

~


6/27/13 Why worry? …. “If we have a problem and …..” advice from Shantideva, 8th Century

~

~

Shantideva why worry

~

~
Some “wisdom” Kathy is trying to keep in mind right now…

During “in-between times”….
when there may be a possible “problem” developing,
but not yet happening or certain…
to recognize and remember this  wisdom,
originally from Shantideva, in the 8th century,
rephrased by Jampa
“If we have a problem and can’t fix it, then worry solves nothing.
If we have a problem that can be fixed, why worry?”
~

~
And if we are in that period of time when we “don’t know” or are “uncertain,”
that “in-between” period,
to develop and use patience
and NOT  create imagined hypothetical scenarios or worries,
to rest calmly and steadily
during those periods of uncertainty

~
(now THAT  is ambitious, at least for some of us!
positive and helpful, but ambitious!)

~

~

~

~

Related Post  on Pocket Perspectives:  “Keeping our pets healthy and safe…guess how much we love you?”

Kathy, Peter and Julie’s  dog Denali ate parts of a grill cleaning brush on Monday night…..the vet will need to operate this afternoon  (Thursday in California) to remove the clump of bristles and plastic in her stomach.  Sooooo….. to keep going back to Shantideva’s advice and wisdom on that “card.”  Monday update…Denali died yesterday, of lung complications from the operations. Link to a Monday post honoring Nali: “Comfort….shhhhhh…it’s going to be okay… with time it will be okay”

Another post with helpful advice: “To not worry so much over things we have no control over”


5/20/13 Relax, work with what you have…in time it will sort itself out…

~

~

~

relax, work with what you have, in time it will sort itself out...

~

~


4/28/13 Applying patience, love, kindness and wisdom in our daily lives

~

~

~

applying patience love kindness and wisdom in our daily lives

~

~

~

~

patience, love, kindness and wisdom ...deeper levels of trees

~

~

~

six perfections plus patience kindness love and wisdom...tree levels

~

~


4/25/13 Try to remain aware of expectations and keep them in check

~

~

try to remain aware of expectations and keep them in check

~

~


4/21/13 “One day at a time…that’s enough for now…”

~

~

one day at a time...that's enough for now

~

~


4/18/13 Encourage you to slow down…

~

~

Encourage you to slow down

~

~

~


“Is it just a rope?” … “Oh no!…a snake?”…. “Wow!…jewelry?”

~
some figuring out… from Kathy…
using the Buddhist idea and metaphor …of whether one sees a rope or a snake,
creating stronger awareness about the dynamic in that perception or interpretation
learning to use this awareness in everyday life

~

rope or snake... I'm walking along a trail

~

rope or snake...notice, perceive, label

~

rope or snake ...possibly

~

rope or snake...how of interpreting

~

rope or snake...based on personal history

~

rope or snake...dynamic of choice

~

rope or snake...awareness...choice

~


4/13/13 Confusion will occur… slowly we come to understand these states in a different way

~

~

confusion will occur...slowly we come to understand these states in a different way

~

~

~


4/11/13 How we choose or try to react is what matters….

~

How we choose or try to react is what matters

~


Image

3/25/13 To wait until the situation is more settled….to understand it


3/12/13 A nice lesson about persevering and not giving up… “Go Nali!”

~
ahhhh…
imagined or perceived limitations and fears…
learning to persevere and not give up…
just “chipping away”
“Go Nali!”
~

Nali persevering and chipping away at things..go Nali!!!

~

~


1/30/13 Letting go of “seeking approval” ….our positive motivation and intention are what counts…

~

~

letting go of seeking approval, looking at positive motivatin and intention

~

~


1/28/13 “Patience is a vast subject…”

~

~

patience is a vast subject

~

~


1/21/13 “Why worry?” ….advice from Shantideva, 8th Century

~

Shantideva why worry

~
ideas from Kathy
(Jampa is in retreat for several more weeks)

So during those “in between” times….
to recognize and remember this  wisdom,
originally from Shantideva, in the 8th century,
rephrased by Jampa
“If we have a problem and can’t fix it, then worry solves nothing.
If we have a problem that can be fixed, why worry?”
~
And if we are in a period of time when we don’t know or are uncertain,
that in between period,
to develop and use patience
and not create hypothetical scenarios or worries
to rest calmly and steadily
during those periods of uncertainty

~
(now THAT  is ambitious, at least for some of us!
positive and helpful,
but ambitious!)

~